Forgiveness

Forgiveness has three aspects: 

1. To forgive anyone for having wronged 
2. To ask for forgiveness from the one whom we have 
3. To forgive yourself

Of the three, I believe that the last one is the hardest. Forgiving those who seemed to have wronged us is better than asking for forgiveness. With the passage of time when the initial pain they caused us starts to become dull and distant and because we see they do not repeat their old habits, because we see that there is a genuine change in them, and that they apologise and seek us for forgiveness enthusiastically, excited and genuinely we find it more convenient to forgive them. It's better to give them a second chance. We replay all the memories of the good times with them in our heads and use this positivity to cancel out one or two actions of negativity they have done.
With the passage of time, and with changing circumstances, and with them and ourselves changing, this is the simplest and perhaps the easiest kind of forgiveness. Furthermore, when we forgive a human our ego feels good, dominant, noble and validated. Its a high for many people, and when we forgive, ego or not, we do feel good. However, since we never know the whole thing about someone, we should owe other people the benefit of doubt, making it easier for us to forgive.
It is much more difficult to ask for forgiveness because we must downsize our ego here, feel modest, apologize for our negative actions or words, pledge, implicitly or explicitly, that we will not replicate our past habits, become insecure, lose our pride, self-esteem, shame and forgiveness. But if we could, we wouldn't only win the people's heart, we would have developed and evolved into a higher vibration.
Finally, it is the hardest thing to forgive, because we really know what we said, and we know that at this time we always had an option not to do or doing such things. But, we agreed that ... where other people were concerned, we had no influence of their emotions, words and deeds. In this situation, we can't even say that because it's for ourselves. We have to accept full responsibility, we confess that we were wrong, we have a different choice with different implications, we feel the shame and guilt of our choices, we blame ourselves, we feel miserable, we are weak, we apologize and regret, we vow never again, and we leave that to go away. But sometimes we are guilty of acts or words that might have had a devastating effect on others concerned. Our words or actions might have destroyed others, in many ways. Our words or actions might have caused someone to get depressed, hurt or even hurt themselves. We could have sent someone to jail or split up a family, by our words and actions. And in our minds, we know that we alone are accountable and that we could have done nothing. That makes it even harder to forgive ourselves, almost impossible.
Yet we have to forgive ourselves, for we did what we thought was the best decision at that moment when we spoke or did something inactable; with all the knowledge, details, experiences and wisdom we had at the time we decided. We know better now and we'd make a better choice. Nonetheless, a stronger and more rational decision today may seem smart, but a few years later it could seem false. It's really no solution and no sure way to get it right at all times. We are people, we have deeply seated values, circumstances, social and peer pressure, complex cultural backgrounds, and our own unconscious and aware minds. The only way is to make sure that we are people and to fail is sinful, but to apologize is spiritual whether this is about punishing ourselves or others. The most important way is grace.